The Thursday 16th New Zealand Herald featured an article by reporter Frances Cook with the above title. We know that the media is no friend of the unborn child but this piece of journalistic licence was simply a pro-abortion spin job and nothing but a thinly veiled attempt to give impetus to putting the final jack boot to the head of the unborn child. We are talking about the ultimate act of betrayal – the push to completely decriminalize abortion.
I read with disbelief the ‘stories’ of seven women all lamenting the difficulty they had in disposing of their unborn child. Difficulties they associated with the perceived unfair requirements of legislation that was put in place to ensure protection for lives of our pre-born children. Nowhere in any of these stories do we see responsibility taken or compassion expressed for the living human being whom they have conceived. What we hear is rancour at how difficult and embarrassing it was for them to sidestep all responsibility for the natural consequences of freely chosen sexual activity and to procure the destruction of an inconvenient human being.
It is interesting that there are no stories from women who have been coerced into abortion. Little to no honesty here about the role men play in the pressurising women to have abortions. Men not women are more likely to be the driving force in manipulating a woman to abort the child they have fathered or are in a position of authority over. Boyfriends, Fathers, Grandfathers. Men not women are more often than not the ones who fail to take responsibility for their actions and it is men who are often the perpetrators. If men were willing to take responsibility there would be far fewer abortions.
In the NZ Herald article we see only a few glimpses of the negative impacts on their lives following abortion. Does anyone really believe these accounts are the full story and are truly representative of the abortion experiences of New Zealand women? No way. What we do have is a media snow job that trivializes the scourge of abortion. Thousands of New Zealand women and men, struggle every day with the guilt, shame and horror of having aborted their own child. We do not hear from any of these in the Herald article.
Some of the stories presented in the Frances Cook article are discussed below.
Fran Robertson says abortion still has a social stigma. “I was in my final year of high school and, despite being on birth control, I found myself in a situation that I was definitely not equipped for.” This “situation” made me violently and dangerously unwell, and despite the fact that it was deemed unsafe for me to continue with the pregnancy, I still had to declare that I was not mentally stable in order to have a termination. Imagine being 17, and being told that you have to declare yourself mentally incapable before your can have a procedure that would save your life.”
I wonder if Ms Robertson thought about the possible consequences of having sex before becoming involved? Apparently not. Becoming pregnant, apparently made her ‘violently and dangerously unwell’. Who we wonder deemed it ‘unsafe’ for her to continue her pregnancy? She goes on to say that aborting her child would ‘save your life’. How self-deceptive can one be. The ‘procedure’ certainly did not save the life of her unborn child and according to statistics the chances of a woman dying in childbirth or from complications are less than one five thousandth of one percent. What Ms Robertson meant was that having an abortion would mean that she would be able to continue to have the sort of life that she had anticipated before becoming pregnant.
The second woman “J” ‘somehow’ ended up pregnant in spite of having an IUD. Apparently pregnant by “a friend with benefits’. According to “J” ‘to get the outcome you need, be prepared to lie. “J” like other women in this story seems to prefer the third person to talk about what she needed which was to be rid of her child.
The third woman “O” found the decision to terminate her child was ‘neither big nor traumatic’. Her gripe was that she was made to wait 6 weeks before she could do it and that she resented having an ultra sound. One wonders why she resented the ultra-sound if the decision was of no consequence for her. Because of 3D Ultrasound, no women can claim to be ignorant of the fact that she is carrying a living human being with a heart that starts to beat at 6 weeks, not ‘a clump of cells or the products of conception’. “O” calls for a more rapid ‘processing’ to hasten the process of ‘termination.’
“M” was 14 and at school when she became pregnant and “definitely not ready to be a mother”. Here we find a little bit of honesty, “M” obliquely recognizes what she already now is and that is a mother. What she wants is to not be a mother again and to achieve this she needs to have someone kill her unborn child.
Digressing for a moment. What on earth are school children doing in front of Parliament holding up signs advocating for school boys to respect consent? How did we get so far down the track that children believe the lie that all that non-consent is the only thing that should hold them back from having sex? Let alone their protesting parliament about the rape of children by children? And what on earth are schools doing teaching kids that sexual involvement at school age is all OK in the first place? What is being taught is that as long as you ‘consent’ to have sex and take ‘precautions’ it’s all going to be OK. This is madness on a mass scale and the recipe for social disaster. Why is the attitude ‘they are going to do it anyway so prevalent?’ Why is our education system deceiving our children into believing such notions as ‘safe sex’ when they should be encouraging and promoting abstinence? Has the cult of self-autonomy and the moral and sexual revolution reached such a fever pitch that our educators and society at large have abandoned all responsibility to protecting our young from things that will harm them?
“Never let anyone tell you what to do with your body” says “M”. Well M, for a start off the human being within you was not your body. It had a separate circulation system, it had a separate blood type. It had DNA that was completely unique and certainly not your own. It was a unique and unrepeatable miracle.
“N” claims ‘a woman should be able to have an abortion because she knows that it is the right decision for her. Not because there is a “danger to her mental health”. Would we accept the same argument for disposing of a child after it has been born? What about a toddler? Would we accept someone’s decision to kill a toddler because it was ‘not the right decision for them”?
We know that the mental health clause in the CS&A Act is being abused. It was never meant to be coarse sieve through which the lives of hundreds of thousands of pre-born New Zealanders would be poured out. Yes we agree that it is being abused and we believe that it should not be. The CS & A Act needs to be interpreted in the manner that was originally intended and that is to have regard for the right to life of the unborn child. That over half a million unborn children have been killed because of a loophole in the legislation relating to mental health is a tragedy.
“T” did not want to adopt out her child when that was suggested as an alternative option to abortion, because “one of my half-sisters was abused by her adoptive parents”. So what can we infer that “T” believes here? Simply that it is better to kill than to adopt. Surely there is something very seriously amiss here. Let’s see if we’ve got the logic right. Because my baby might get abused by it’s adoptive parents I’m going to kill it instead!!!
Let’s look at adoption. There were over 2600 adoptions in 1968. Last year 2016, less than 60. Adoptions since 1968 have fallen by 98% Why is that? Surely life is better than death.
In none of the above ‘stories’ from women who have had abortion is there any real in depth look at the harm and hurt that we know many women suffer after abortion. There is not one women here who expresses regret over having aborted their unborn child.
No matter how the media portrays it, no matter how much Family Planning spins it, abortion is the elephant in the room of New Zealand society. It festers like a boil just below the surface and it won’t be lanced and allowed to heal unless more brave women come forward and tell us about the real cost of abortion. Abortion damaged women sit in the pews of our churches. Our priests, pastors and ministers are too afraid to even address the issue. They must. Women will not be healed by decriminalization, or by any legislative change; that will only push the infection deeper.
But women and men can be healed from the trauma of abortion. Abortion damaged women can be healed and our nation can be set free from the blood guilt that calls out from the earth. How? Women can be set free from abortion guilt by spiritual healing. There are many organisations throughout the country that help women come to terms with abortion such as PATHS. Project Rachael and Pregnancy Counselling Services
Vice President Right to Life